Most of you know that my greatest learning and teaching of this lifetime is to balance our spiritual nature with our human nature— hence why my MeetUp group was called Spiritually Human. (I did just close my MeetUp group to prepare for the arrival of our first child!)
One of the ways this polarization arises is in the dynamic between surrendering and creating. When we surrender, we trust in Spirit and a higher plan beyond our human understanding that is working for our greatest good. When we create, we honor that we incarnated in a human body to enact our free will, individual agency, and unique soul expression.
Often, these two capacities feel quite vibrationally different. They may even seem to be at odds with each other. For example, let’s say a dear friend or romantic partner tells you that they are ready to close the connection with you. Is it an opportunity to surrender, let go, and trust the change despite the heart break? Or is it an opportunity to activate your creative potential and work hard to keep the relationship going? Or is it both on alternating days?
Lately, I’ve been feeling this polarity in my own life. I’m now 23 weeks pregnant. Whew! This is a journey for such a highly sensitive being as myself. On one hand, there are a multitude of physical changes with which I have little choice but to practice surrender. This also means feeling all the emotions that come— frustration that my body is uncomfortable… fear that I’m doing something wrong… grief for the life and body that will be changed forever…
Of course, there are also joyful emotions— celebration, delight, curiosity! However, those aren’t as challenging to navigate. ;)
Ironically, in the midst of the surrender, I often get a clear impulse that ‘letting go' is not the only thing that is called for. I also feel the creative impulse to act. If my body is uncomfortable, perhaps I need to make a change in my diet. If I’m in excessive fear, it’s time to talk to someone and do spiritual work to change my mindset. Maybe, noticing the grief is not quite ‘enough’ and I need to actively move my body to access the emotional well inside and cry it out.
Obviously, most of you are not pregnant. Lol. However, these lessons apply to whatever you are going through currently. How do you hear the call from within about whether it’s time to surrender or create? How do you combine them effectively in your life to find a healthy balance? Can you flip back and forth moment by moment, creating a surrender and then surrendering to a creative impulse?
The means of finding balance comes through spiritual practice: meditating… listening… honing your intuition… learning to hear the call of your higher self… contacting your Helping Spirits for guidance…
If this feels overwhelming or unclear, you can also ask for help from a guide in the human realm! So many of us are here for you.
The important element is to name the Create and Surrender polarity in your own life. Many of my clients get stuck on only one side and then feel out of alignment.
If you have a moment, pause now and consider the soul lesson or challenge in your life now. Has there been an excess of surrender, leaving you feeling powerless? Or are you exhausted from actively creating, doing, and trying to change things? If you notice either extreme, take a few breaths. Invite a change of energy into your body. The polarity of either side will feel very different. It may even feel counterintuitive— like you’re doing something wrong.
Lean into it. It may be the exact medicine you need.
Blessings,
Kelley